Why losing control can be a good thing
Behind every mask there is a face, and behind that a story

You can choose to stay trapped, or you can choose to soar


I was like a butterfly trapped in a spider’s web. It was a dark place and I felt death was imminent.

But then someone said to me, “Jane, you are a free person, no one has the right to control you or trap you. You are free.”

They were probably the most powerful words ever spoken to me.

I realised I could break free if I tried hard enough. In reality, I just had to flap my wings and fly. So I did.

There are a few threads of the web still attached to my wings but they are falling off fast.

And I am starting to soar.

“Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to
choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” Vicktor E. Frankl.

Have you heard the story about the elephants?

The elephants in the circus were held by thin ropes around their ankles.  It was obvious that the elephants could, at any time, break free from the ropes that held them, but for some reason, they did not. So why did these beautiful, magnificent animals just stand there, and make no attempt to escape?

Captured when they were very young and much smaller they were tethered with chains. They couldn’t break free.  As they grew up, they were simply conditioned to believe they could not escape. Even though now, much bigger and stronger, and tethered with just a rope, they believed the rope could still hold them. If they tried to break free, as soon as they felt the slightest resistance they stopped. They gave up. These powerful animals could at any time escape from their bonds but because they believed they couldn’t…they couldn’t.

Like the elephants, how many of us go through life hanging onto a belief that we cannot do something, simply because we failed at it before?

How many of us are being held back by old, outdated beliefs that no longer serve us? How many of us have avoided trying something new because of a limiting belief? Worse, how many of us are being held back by someone else’s limiting beliefs?

We are all more powerful than we realise.

We can choose to stay stuck or we can choose not to accept the false boundaries and limitations created by our past or other people.

“No one outside ourselves can rule us inwardly. When we know this, we become free”. Buddha.

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